The person centered therapy is more focus on the client rather than the problem.The therapist let the client to analyze his problem for him to solve his own problem. GOALS OF THE THERAPY The goal of the therapy is not to solve the problems but to assist the individual to grow so that he can cope with the present and future problem that will come on his way. FUNCTION OF THE THERAPY The major task of the therapist is to provide a climate of safety and trust which will encourage the clients to reintegrate their self actualizing and self-valuing process.Also the role of the therapist is to listen to the client without making any judgment,without giving any advice and simply help the client to feel accepted and understand their own feelings. THREE BASIC CONDITIONS FOR THERAPEUTIC EFFECTIVENESS There are three basic conditions for therapeutic effectiveness and these are: empathy, congruence and unconditional positive regard.
EMPATHY- The state of accurately understanding the client's world from the client's perspective.
CONGRUENCE- A healthy state of unison between one's total organismic experience and a self-concept that is free of conditions of worth. Therapist's openness and genuineness--the willingness to relate to clients without hiding behind a professional facade.
UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD- The therapist accepts the client totally for who he/she without evaluating or censoring and without disapproving of particular feelings,actions or characteristics
If they fail to accomplish the 3 basic conditions the therapeutic process will not be effective anymore.
Dela Cruz, Kristine Joy L. Juane, Chariz Anne Q. Tavera, Melody R. BEED 3B
Question from Jessica Flores 1.How are you going to maintain good interaction within your family? We can maintain good interaction within our family through means of having an open communication.Talks regularly about what happens to them for the whole day.Always encourage them to express themselves. 2.It is good to have a pattern of leadership and power manifest in the family? Why? For me it is good to have a pattern of leadership inside the house because when there is no power manifest in the family we will don't know the person that we should follow.It is also good because there is someone that will discipline us and guide us as we grew up. And for me the father should be the head of the family but in the decision making they should both decide on it. 3.You as a future educator, How are you going to develop self-esteem of your students? As a future educator, I can develop the child's self-esteem by simply encourage them.And if they have low self-esteem I will always praise them to help them to boost their confidence.Always encourage them that "If others can do why can't I''. Question coming from Angela Bembenuto 1.What is the biggest problem that your family encountered and how your family overcome with that problem? The biggest problem that my family encountered is when 3 of my family members died in just a year.It was happen three years ago, my grandmother died June 29, 2007 my sister's husband on July 14 and my grand father on August 21. It was the biggest problem that my family encountered. How we overcome it? We overcome it that problem by keeping our faith in God, and through the help of each other, we lift each other up and we know that God allows things to happen because there is a purpose. 2.Are you ready to have your own family in the near future?and we as a future parents what are we going to do to build a good relationship within our children?are you going to establish rules and regulations inside your family? In the near future I don't know if I am ready to have my own family yet.Because I don't want to leave my parents when they are old.I want to be on their side and I want to take care of them just as like they takes care of me.And also I want to help my family first before entering the married life.
Name: _____________________________________ Date:_________________ Individual Problem Checklist Directions: Put a number next to any item which you experience. 1=mildly, 2=moderately, 3=severely Emotional Concerns ____feeling anxious or uptight ____excessive worrying ____not being able to relax ____feeling panicky ____unable to calm yourself down ____dwelling on certain thoughts or images ____fearing something terrible about to happen ____avoiding certain thoughts or feelings ____having strong fears ____worrying about a nervous breakdown ____feeling out of control ____avoiding being with people ____fears of being alone or abandoned ____feeling guilty ____having nightmares ____flashbacks ____troubling or painful memories ____missing periods of time - can't remember ____trouble remembering things ____feeling numb instead of upset ____feeling detached from all or part of body ____feeling unreal, strange or foggy ____feeling depressed or sad ____being tired or lacking energy ____feeling unmotivated ____loss of interest in many things ____having trouble concentrating ____having trouble making decisions ____feeling the future looks hopeless ____feeling worthless or a failure ____being unhappy all the time ____dissatisfied with physical appearance ____feeling self critical or blaming yourself ____having negative thoughts ____crying often ____feeling empty ____withdrawing inside yourself ____thinking too much about death ____thoughts of hurting yourself ____thoughts of killing yourself ____frequent mood swings ____feeling resentful or angry ____feeling irritable or frustrated ____feeling rage ____feeling like hurting someone __________________________________________________ Behavioral and Physical Concerns ____not having an appetite ____eating in binges ____self induced vomiting for weight control ____using laxatives for weight control ____eating too much ____eating too little ____losing weight - how much?_____ ____gaining weight - how much?____ ____trouble sleeping ____trouble falling asleep ____early morning awakening ____sleeping too much ____sleeping too little ____# of hours I usually sleep: _____ ____lack of exercise ____not having leisure activities ____smoking cigarettes ____often spending in binges ____temper outbursts ____aggressive toward others ____impulsive reactions ____trouble finishing things ____working too hard ____using alcohol too much ____being alcoholic ____using drugs ____driving under the influence ____blackouts - after drinking ___Yes ___No Have you ever felt you ought to cut down on your drinking or drug use? ___Yes ___No Have people annoyed you by criticizing your drinking or drug use? ___Yes ___No Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking or drug use? ___Yes ___No Have you ever had a drink or used drugs first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover? _______________________________________________ Intimate Relationship Concerns ____feeling misunderstood in relationship ____not feeling close to partner ____trouble communicating with partner ____not trusting partner ____lack of respect by partner ____partner being secretive ____lack of fairness in relationship ____problems with dividing household tasks ____disagreeing about children ____lack of affection ____unsatisfactory sexual relationship ____lack of time together ____lack of shared interests ____lack of positive interaction ____lack of time with other couples ____jealousy in relationship ____frequent arguments ____trouble resolving conflict ____partner being demanding and controlling ____partner putting you down ____violent arguments ____emotional abuse in relationship ____physical abuse in relationship ____sexual abuse in relationship ____partner having alcohol or drug problem ____self or partner having an affair ____feeling uncommitted to relationship ____wanting to separate ____discussing separating or divorce ____problems with in-laws ____problems with ex-partner ____problems with step parents ____children having special problems _________________________________________________ Sexual Concerns ____worrying about getting pregnant ____having miscarriage(s) ____choice of birth control ____having an abortion ____not able to become pregnant ____not enjoying sexual affection ____too tired to have sex ____too anxious to have sex ____feeling a lack of sexual desire ____wanting to have sex more often ____feeling neglected sexually ____feeling used sexually ____feeling unable to have orgasm ____being unable to sustain an erection ____feeling negatively about sex _________________________________________________ When Growing Up to Present Time: ____being physically abused - by whom? ____being emotionally abused - by whom? ____being sexually abused - by whom? ____having an alcoholic parent - which? ____having a drug abusing parent - which? ____having a depressed parent - which? ____having a parent with emotional problems ____having parents separate or divorce ____close family member dying - who? ____felt neglected or unloved - by whom ____having an unhappy childhood ____having serious medical problems - what? ____having drug or alcohol problem ____frequent moves ____having learning problems - what? ____having emotional problems ____having attempted suicide - when? ___________________________________________________ Stresses During the Past Several Years: ____death of family member or friend - who? ____birth or adoption of child ____self or family member hospitalized - who? ____moved ____being harassed or assaulted ____frequent family or couple arguments ____separation/divorce ____an important relationship ending - who? ____losing or changing job ____financial trouble ____legal problems ____natural disaster ____serious or chronic illness -what:________ ____________________________________________ ____other Please State Your Goals for Therapy: 1.______________________________________________________________________________________________ 2.______________________________________________________________________________________________ 3.______________________________________________________________________________________________ Additional Comments:
It's December again and it's Christmas time! They say Christmas is a season to love, to give, to forgive and to thank God for all the blessings we received. But it can be Christmas everyday. Everyday we can love, we can give, we can forgive and we can thank God. Christmas is for children. Especially for the street children. As of now, there are lots of street children. They ask for a coin to buy some food to eat. At their young age they experience lots of problems in their lives. Lots of problems that they will encounter as they grow up. Every December, I and my family are busy preparing for Christmas. We start to put Christmas tree and Christmas lights. We start to put decorations on our house, We also start to buy gifts for our loved ones and 'inaanaks". We prepare delicious and special foods to eat. And we do not forget to go to church. Every Christmas all the family members are there, we laugh together, we eat together and we make sure that the quality time will not be wasted. That's how we celebrate Christmas. And I hope that the street children and other people will also have food to eat during Christmas Eve, shelter to live on and new clothes to wear.How I wish I can help them....How can I help them?? How we can help them??
I can see myself helping this Christmas by simply praying for those persons who are in need. Always include them in our prayers.If we have excess budget we can help them by giving them some foods to eat. If we have some old clothes we can give it. We can donate toys on selected fast foods.We can also donate on some charitable institutions to help. There are lot of ways to help this Christmas. All we have to do is to open our heart to give. Be a cheerful giver. According to a saying " it is better to give than to receive". So it's the time to help and even if it is not Christmas continue to help and continue to be a blessing to others.
From the two learning circles we did, I've realized that everything that happens in our life whether it is good or bad,God allows it to happen because there is a purpose. I also realized that I'm so blessed with what I have with my life now. I'm thankful to God because He allows me to experience happy thoughts in my life and He also allows me to experience problems because in those problems that I encountered (we encountered) mold me (mold us) to be a better person.
VERSE TO FONDER: " For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11-
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Common Problems of Children
It's common for preschool children to exhibit behavioral problems, as the result of increased interaction with others and not knowing how to communicate their needs effectively. The majority of common behavioral problems are exhibited in children 18 months and older.
1. Hitting is often a direct communication of frustration when a child is not getting his way. Young children often hit because they cannot speak the words to communicate their irritation.
2. Biting Typically, this is a developmental teething issue and not behavioral. However, like hitting, it is an easy way for children who do not have verbal skills to express anger or frustration.
3. Taking Toys Children under the age of three are still learning the basic concept of sharing. Children do not share their toys at home in an only-child situation, thereby making sharing in preschool a foreign concept to them.
4. Temper Tantrums are attention-gaining tools for children to get their way. Children realize quickly that teachers are more likely to give in the louder the tantrum is and the longer it lasts.
5. Not Following Directions Following directions is very difficult for children under two years of age as their main focus is to explore and sense the world around them. However, children over two years, while still curious, should understand boundaries and rules when told to do something.
6. Personal Aggression Children who suck their thumb, grind their teeth, pull their teeth or rock or bang their heads include some of the negative habits that puts parents and other adults on edge. What may look like self-aggression is typically a bad habit a child formed and will most likely grow out of it. The article "Bad Habits, Annoying Behavior," published by the University of Michigan Health System, states that calling attention to the offending behavior, shouting or disciplining a child usually does not stop the habit. Instead, they suggest offering praise and encouragement when the child ceases the behavior.
Intellectual:
Mental retardation/intellectual disability is significantly sub average intellectual functioning present from birth or early infancy, causing limitations in the ability to conduct normal activities of daily living.
Mental retardation/intellectual disability (MR/ID) can be genetic or the result of a disorder that interferes with brain development.
Most children with MR/ID do not develop noticeable symptoms until they are in preschool.
The diagnosis is based on the results of formal testing.
A child's life expectancy is based on the extent of mental and physical problems.
Proper prenatal care lowers the risk of having a child with MR/ID.
Support from many specialists, therapy, and special education help children achieve the highest level of functioning possible.
Emotional Problem
Children are precious; As parents we worry about their health. When our children have issues and crises, these issues and crises affect us just as much, if not more, than it affects them. We fear that which might bring them fear; we hurt when we see them hurt; and sometimes, we cry just seeing them cry. Writer Elizabeth Stone once said "Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body." So, when it seems like something is not quite right with your children - perhaps they seem more afraid than other kids, or they seem to get a lot angrier than their playmates do over certain things - this odd or "off" behavior can be experienced as terrifying. In fact, a child's difficulty can be just the starting point for your parental worry and concern. You might not know what to do to help your child, or where to go for help. Possibly, you may worry because you don't even know if your child's problem is something you should be concerned about in the first place.
We've created this survey of childhood mental and emotional disorders to help worried parents better understand the various ways that mental illness can effect children; what it looks like and how it can be helped. Children's mental and emotional disorders are problems that affect not only their behavior, emotions, moods, or thoughts, but can also affect the entire family as well. These problems are often similar to other types of health problems that your child might have, and can generally be treated with medications or psychotherapy (or a combination of both).
PART ONE:
Life is full of emotions like anger, fear sadness and happiness. Sometimes we experience anger because someone hurt us, we experience fear of losing someone, we experience sadness because of the problems we encountered but most of the time we experience happiness in our lives. Now allow me to share my happy thoughts with you.
The happiest thought of my life is when I was a child. It was a Christmas day all the family members are complete. My grandparents are there, my cousins and my uncles and aunties are also there. There are lot of foods on the table and gifts under the christmas tree.I remember that my grandparents throws coins and candies then I and my cousins pick up those candies and coins on the floor. And after that we have our exchange gift.
The second happy thoughts of my life is when I have a niece. Last 2009 Baby Sophia came into our life.All the family members were happy because Sophia is such a blessing for us.
The last one is when I'm with my church mates. I'm so happy when I'm with them. I feel so love and special.Every time I'm done they lifted me up and they are always there for me. That's why I'm so happy because God gave me a true friend like them.
I'm so happy and thankful because God let me experience those anger, fear, sadness and most especially the happiness in my life.
PART TWO:
The hindrances........
problems
people
fear
time
PART THREE:
The solutions....
As an individual we experience different obstacles, challenges and hindrances in our lives. For me the only solution is to kneel down and pray. Stay positive! Don't Quit! Keep our faith in God alive! No matter what happens whether it is good or bad always remember that God gave those problems because there is a purpose.
