individual problem checklist

                     Name: _____________________________________ Date:_________________ 
Individual Problem Checklist 
Directions:
     Put a number next to any item which you experience.      1=mildly,  2=moderately,  3=severely
Emotional Concerns
____feeling anxious or uptight 
____excessive worrying 
____not being able to relax 
____feeling panicky 
____unable to calm yourself down 
____dwelling on certain thoughts or images 
____fearing something terrible about to happen 
____avoiding certain thoughts or feelings 
____having strong fears 
____worrying about a nervous breakdown 
____feeling out of control 
____avoiding being with people 
____fears of being alone or abandoned 
____feeling guilty 
____having nightmares 
____flashbacks 
____troubling or painful memories 
____missing periods of time - can't remember 
____trouble remembering things 
____feeling numb instead of upset 
____feeling detached from all or part of body 
____feeling unreal, strange or foggy 
____feeling depressed or sad 
____being tired or lacking energy 
____feeling unmotivated 
____loss of interest in many things 
____having trouble concentrating 
____having trouble making decisions 
____feeling the future looks hopeless 
____feeling worthless or a failure 
____being unhappy all the time 
____dissatisfied with physical appearance 
____feeling self critical or blaming yourself 
____having negative thoughts 
____crying often 
____feeling empty 
____withdrawing inside yourself 
____thinking too much about death 
____thoughts of hurting yourself 
____thoughts of killing yourself 
____frequent mood swings 
____feeling resentful or angry 
____feeling irritable or frustrated 
____feeling rage 
____feeling like hurting someone
 __________________________________________________
Behavioral and Physical Concerns
____not having an appetite 
____eating in binges 
____self induced vomiting for weight control 
____using laxatives for weight control 
____eating too much 
____eating too little 
____losing weight - how much?_____ 
____gaining weight - how much?____ 
____trouble sleeping 
____trouble falling asleep 
____early morning awakening 
____sleeping too much 
____sleeping too little 
____# of hours I usually sleep: _____ 
____lack of exercise 
____not having leisure activities 
____smoking cigarettes 
____often spending in binges 
____temper outbursts 
____aggressive toward others 
____impulsive reactions 
____trouble finishing things 
____working too hard  
____using alcohol too much 
____being alcoholic 
____using drugs 
____driving under the influence 
____blackouts - after drinking 
___Yes ___No  Have you ever felt you ought to cut                 
down on your drinking or drug use? 
___Yes ___No  Have people annoyed you by 
criticizing your drinking or drug use? 
___Yes ___No Have you ever felt bad or guilty 
about your drinking or drug use? 
___Yes ___No Have you ever had a drink or used                     
drugs first thing in the morning to                   
steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover? 
_______________________________________________
Intimate Relationship Concerns
____feeling misunderstood in relationship 
____not feeling close to partner 
____trouble communicating with partner 
____not trusting partner 
____lack of respect by partner 
____partner being secretive 
____lack of fairness in relationship 
____problems with dividing household tasks 
____disagreeing about children 
____lack of affection 
____unsatisfactory sexual relationship 
____lack of time together 
____lack of shared interests 
____lack of positive interaction ____lack of time with other couples 
____jealousy in relationship 
____frequent arguments 
____trouble resolving conflict 
____partner being demanding and controlling 
____partner putting you down 
____violent arguments 
____emotional abuse in relationship 
____physical abuse in relationship 
____sexual abuse in relationship 
____partner having alcohol or drug problem 
____self or partner having an affair 
____feeling uncommitted to relationship 
____wanting to separate 
____discussing separating or divorce 
____problems with in-laws 
____problems with ex-partner 
____problems with step parents 
____children having special problems 
 _________________________________________________
Sexual Concerns
____worrying about getting pregnant 
____having miscarriage(s) 
____choice of birth control 
____having an abortion 
____not able to become pregnant 
____not enjoying sexual affection 
____too tired to have sex 
____too anxious to have sex 
____feeling a lack of sexual desire 
____wanting to have sex more often 
____feeling neglected sexually 
____feeling used sexually 
____feeling unable to have orgasm 
____being unable to sustain an erection 
____feeling negatively about sex 
 _________________________________________________
When Growing Up to Present Time:
____being physically abused - by whom? 
____being emotionally abused - by whom? 
____being sexually abused - by whom? 
____having an alcoholic parent - which? 
____having a drug abusing parent - which? 
____having a depressed parent - which? 
____having a parent with emotional problems 
____having parents separate or divorce 
____close family member dying - who? 
____felt neglected or unloved - by whom 
____having an unhappy childhood 
____having serious medical problems - what? 
____having drug or alcohol problem 
____frequent moves 
____having learning problems - what? 
____having emotional problems 
____having attempted suicide - when? 
 ___________________________________________________
Stresses During the Past Several Years:
____death of family member or friend - who? 
____birth or adoption of child 
____self or family member hospitalized - who? 
____moved 
____being harassed or assaulted 
____frequent family or couple arguments 
____separation/divorce 
____an important relationship ending - who? 
____losing or changing job 
____financial trouble 
____legal problems 
____natural disaster 
____serious or chronic illness -what:________ 
 ____________________________________________
____other 
Please State Your Goals for Therapy: 
1.______________________________________________________________________________________________ 
2.______________________________________________________________________________________________ 
3.______________________________________________________________________________________________ 
  
Additional Comments:  
                                                                                                                                  

Christmas for sale

              It's December again and it's Christmas time! They say Christmas is a season to love, to give, to forgive and to thank God for all the blessings we received. But it can be Christmas  everyday. Everyday we can love, we can give, we can forgive and we can thank God. Christmas is for children. Especially for the street children. As of now, there are lots of street children. They ask for a coin to buy some food to eat. At their young age they experience lots of problems in their lives. Lots of problems that they will encounter as they grow up.
              
             Every December, I and my family are busy preparing for Christmas. We start to put Christmas tree and Christmas lights. We start to put decorations on our house, We also start to buy gifts for our loved ones and 'inaanaks". We prepare delicious and special foods to eat. And we do not forget to go to church. Every Christmas all the family members are there, we laugh together, we eat together and we make sure that the quality time will not be wasted. That's how we celebrate Christmas. And I hope that the street children and other people will also have food to eat during Christmas Eve, shelter to live on and new clothes to wear.How I wish I can help them....How can I help them?? How we can help them??


            I can see myself helping this Christmas by simply praying for those persons who are in need. Always include them in our prayers.If we have excess budget we can help them by giving them some foods to eat. If we have some old clothes we can give it. We can donate toys on selected fast foods.We can also donate on some charitable institutions to help. There are lot of ways to help this Christmas. All we have to do is to open our heart to give. Be a cheerful giver. According to a saying " it is better to give than to receive". So it's the time to help and even if it is not Christmas continue to help and continue to be a blessing to others.

MOLE (Management of Learning Experience)

From the two learning circles we did, I've realized that everything that happens in our life whether it is good or bad,God allows it to happen because there is a purpose. I also realized that I'm so blessed with what I have with my life now. I'm thankful to God because He allows me to experience happy thoughts in my life and He also allows me to experience problems because in those problems that I encountered (we encountered) mold me (mold us) to be a better person.


VERSE TO FONDER:
      " For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
                                                                                                        
                                                                                 - Jeremiah 29:11-

Common Problems of Children

It's common for preschool children to exhibit behavioral problems, as the result of increased interaction with others and not knowing how to communicate their needs effectively. The majority of common behavioral problems are exhibited in children 18 months and older.

1. Hitting is often a direct communication of frustration when a child is not getting his way. Young children often hit because they cannot speak the words to communicate their irritation.

2. Biting Typically, this is a developmental teething issue and not behavioral. However, like hitting, it is an easy way for children who do not have verbal skills to express anger or frustration.

3. Taking Toys Children under the age of three are still learning the basic concept of sharing. Children do not share their toys at home in an only-child situation, thereby making sharing in preschool a foreign concept to them.

4. Temper Tantrums are attention-gaining tools for children to get their way. Children realize quickly that teachers are more likely to give in the louder the tantrum is and the longer it lasts.

5. Not Following Directions Following directions is very difficult for children under two years of age as their main focus is to explore and sense the world around them. However, children over two years, while still curious, should understand boundaries and rules when told to do something.

6. Personal Aggression Children who suck their thumb, grind their teeth, pull their teeth or rock or bang their heads include some of the negative habits that puts parents and other adults on edge. What may look like self-aggression is typically a bad habit a child formed and will most likely grow out of it. The article "Bad Habits, Annoying Behavior," published by the University of Michigan Health System, states that calling attention to the offending behavior, shouting or disciplining a child usually does not stop the habit. Instead, they suggest offering praise and encouragement when the child ceases the behavior.

Intellectual:                                                                   

Mental retardation/intellectual disability is significantly sub average intellectual functioning present from birth or early infancy, causing limitations in the ability to conduct normal activities of daily living.

• Mental retardation/intellectual disability (MR/ID) can be genetic or the result of a disorder that interferes with brain development.
• Most children with MR/ID do not develop noticeable symptoms until they are in preschool.
• The diagnosis is based on the results of formal testing.
• A child's life expectancy is based on the extent of mental and physical problems.
• Proper prenatal care lowers the risk of having a child with MR/ID.
• Support from many specialists, therapy, and special education help children achieve the highest level of functioning possible.

Emotional Problem

Children are precious; As parents we worry about their health. When our children have issues and crises, these issues and crises affect us just as much, if not more, than it affects them. We fear that which might bring them fear; we hurt when we see them hurt; and sometimes, we cry just seeing them cry. Writer Elizabeth Stone once said "Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body." So, when it seems like something is not quite right with your children - perhaps they seem more afraid than other kids, or they seem to get a lot angrier than their playmates do over certain things - this odd or "off" behavior can be experienced as terrifying. In fact, a child's difficulty can be just the starting point for your parental worry and concern. You might not know what to do to help your child, or where to go for help. Possibly, you may worry because you don't even know if your child's problem is something you should be concerned about in the first place.

We've created this survey of childhood mental and emotional disorders to help worried parents better understand the various ways that mental illness can effect children; what it looks like and how it can be helped. Children's mental and emotional disorders are problems that affect not only their behavior, emotions, moods, or thoughts, but can also affect the entire family as well. These problems are often similar to other types of health problems that your child might have, and can generally be treated with medications or psychotherapy (or a combination of both).

Happy thoughts

Happy thoughts

PART ONE:
  Life is full of emotions like anger, fear sadness and happiness. Sometimes we experience anger because someone hurt us, we experience fear of losing someone, we experience sadness because of the problems we encountered but most of the time we experience happiness in our lives. Now allow me to share my happy thoughts with you.

 The happiest thought of my life is when I was a child. It was a Christmas day all the family members are complete. My grandparents are there, my cousins and my uncles and aunties are also there. There are lot of foods on the table and gifts under the christmas tree.I remember that my grandparents throws coins and candies then I and my cousins pick up those candies and coins on the floor. And after that we have our exchange gift.

The second happy thoughts of my life is when I have a niece. Last 2009 Baby Sophia came into our life.All the family members were happy because Sophia is such a blessing for us.

The last one is when I'm with my church mates. I'm so happy when I'm with them. I feel so love and special.Every time I'm done they lifted me up and they are always there for me. That's why I'm so happy because God gave me a true friend like them.
I'm so happy and thankful because God let me experience those anger, fear, sadness and most especially the happiness in my life.

PART TWO:
The hindrances........

• problems
• people
• fear
• time

PART THREE:
The solutions....
As an individual we experience different obstacles, challenges and hindrances in our lives. For me the only solution is to kneel down and pray. Stay positive! Don't Quit! Keep our faith in God alive! No matter what happens whether it is good or bad always remember that God gave those problems because there is a purpose.